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Let’s Chat Donuts- The 80/20 Rule

Let’s Chat Donuts- The 80/20 Rule


I’ve been meaning to talk donuts for over a week now. Yes, this is a healthy food blog. No, the donuts I want to talk about aren’t healthy. But….. the whole outlook and bigger picture regarding donuts is something I want to talk about.

When I wrote this post last week I mentioned that I wanted to to get donuts with the boys in our pajamas.

Well, we did.


On National Running Day. Ha ha.


Totally inappropriate? Yep.

With at least 3 holes in my old pajama pants? Why yes.

Not the most healthy way to start the day? Sure.

Made me think about all these things I wanted to talk about on the blog? Yes, yes it did.


The next day I was too busy posting about the low calorie ice cream that I never had the little donut chat I wanted.

So, here I am to talk donuts really quick.


I was craving a donut the minute I crossed the finish line at the San Diego Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon a couple weeks ago. I knew exactly the one I wanted. The biggest buttermilk bar with the most chocolate frosting from our local donut place, Peterson’s Donut Corner.

I didn’t get it that day (I ate pretty much everything else in sight), but I still wanted one a few days later.

The last time I had one of those donuts was when I was 9 months pregnant. (Check out my looking back post to see a funny picture of my belly back then.)

I avoid food like that a lot.

Here are the reasons.

Processed food is junk. It doesn’t satisfy you, It makes your blood sugar spike and then leaves you feeling tired and lousy afterwards.

It does not fuel your body with what it really needs.

Personally, my stomach can’t handle high fat, greasy, dairy foods like that well.

Back in the day, if I had one donut, the rest of the day would be shot. One donut would lead to two which would lead to an entire bag of chips at lunch, which would lead to craving some other high calorie sugary thing afterwards, etc. Then I’d figure that if I already messed up my day I might as well eat everything that if “off limits” and start over the next day. Does that sound familiar to anyone else?

Thank goodness that was then.

I’m in a much better place now. I live primarily by the 80/20 rule (I mention this in my about page which desperately needs a makeover).

I know I eat well the majority of the time. I feed my body wholesome, nutritional foods. I stay away from packaged goodies as much as possible.


sometimes you just have to have a donut.


(Oops. That’s a pretty unfortunate picture of the man on the left. Sorry.)

If you really want one donut, go for it. Maybe give it a couple days to make sure you really want it so it’s not an impulse decision. But, if you decide that’s what you really want, do it. Make sure to do it up right though in your pajamas.


You know. Have fun with it. Cause a scene.


Ask strangers to take a picture (or three).


Then enjoy your huge full fat donut.

This was mine.


These were theirs. (They got to pick out their own.)



We served it up with some healthy protein and fruit on the side.


Scrambled egg whites and fresh strawberries.


It may not have been the best breakfast and I wouldn’t recommend doing it on a regular basis, but hey, every once in awhile you’ve got to give yourself a break.


And eat a big freaking donut.


The whole donut.

Laughing out loud

I really think that by treating yourself every so often, you will avoid the all or nothing attitude. Just make sensible choices the majority of the time.

80/20 friends.

The rest of that day was pretty normal. I didn’t feel guilty. I just made sure to eat a light lunch and eat really well at dinner. Sure, my treadmill run was slow (like really slow), but I still did it.

And the next day I felt fine.

Which was a really good thing because it was this day.


That’s right. I ate a ginormous donut the day before I had to impress my best friend Bob.

That’s how I roll.



Okay. That’s my little pitch for the day. I’m off to eat some pumpkin protein dough now.

Hope you’re having a good weekend!

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  1. 1
    sarah says:

    The part that surprised me about this was that y’all went out in your pj’s(my mum never let me out in mine!)-not that you ate the donut- haha:p.

    Aaanyway, Love this post:), I think you have a great mentality around food. Food shouldn’t be taken Sooo seriously, life is too freakin short to deny yourself a donut if you want one(well, cookies are really more my thing)- and if anyone deserves a donut it is you!

    Yaya! I have pumpkin protein cookie dough(topped with cashew butter and dark choccy chunks, mmmm) waiting for me in the fridge- twinsies, haha:p.

    Hope you are enjoying your weekend Kristen:).

    • 1.1
      STUFT Mama says:

      I haven’t tried wit with cashew butter yet. I’ll have to do that. 🙂 Yeah, we should’ve been dressed more appropriately, but oh well. 🙂 Hope you’re having a great weekend Sarah! 🙂

  2. 2
    Shannon says:

    I LOVE this post!! I’m still working on that all or nothing mentality…it’s a work in progress! 🙂

  3. 3
    Sarah says:

    Gosh.. I am so glad you decided to touch on this subject. I am totally dealing with “binge eating” right now. It’s so difficult. I feel like once I slip, I might is well just take the plunge and eat everything in sight. It’s an awful and disgusting habit!! Do you have any recommendations on how you overcame this problem? I feel like all my hard work at the gym has been undone.

    • 3.1
      STUFT Mama says:

      Oh Sarah- I tihnk it’s a life long struggle. DISTRACTION has been a key to helping me throughout the years. It’s so mental. And…… I always have to really think about things and realize there are other reasons why it happens. I’m tired, stressed, anxious, etc. and try to dela with those instead of eat everything in site. 🙂 I’d be happy to email you if you want to chat. 🙂 Beleive me though, I can relate to the feeling that all the hard work in the gym has gone to waste. Hang in there.

  4. 4
    Danica says:

    I LOVE this post, Kristin. You make so many good points, and I especially like that you pointed out the idea of waiting out a craving to see if you still want it then going for it if you do. Healthy living is about making the best choices possible most of the time while still enjoying the indulgences on occasion. Thanks for the great reminder!

  5. 5
    Kathy says:

    I sooo agree with “If you have a craving eat it ~ get over it ~ and satisfy it!” Not sure if that is what you said but that’s what I got from it…ha! I often try to eat everything but the craving and end up eating waaay too much.

    (and you look so super skinny in your striped pj pants…..and comfy too!) 😉

  6. 6

    I completely agree. We set so many rules for ourselves that we forget what food is about. It’s about enjoying it and yes giving in to those cravings. One donut will not kill you. And if it’s what you want it’s what you want. I think we all need to learn to just listen to our bodies, stop having so many rules and just enjoy life!

    Now I want a donut…

  7. 7

    Such a great post! I completely agree. I live by the same rule. I feed my body well, and eat whole foods pretty much 99% of the time. But when I really want to splurge and want something, I will have it 🙂

  8. 8

    Kristin, I love this post! I think everything in moderation is the best lesson anyone can learn! Thanks for sharing 🙂 I try to eat healthy as much as possible, but if you don’t cut yourself some slack you’re gonna go overboard at some point!

    Check out my latest healthy recipe @ bakingblissful.blogspot.com

  9. 9
    lindsay says:

    i feel like i should be there in my PJ’s with sprinkle donut in hand. GF of course. Did they have those. And maybe i should wear a onesie. Ya, that needs to happen next time! So worth it!!

  10. 10
    Susan says:

    Great point about waiting a day or so to see if you really want it. And I love the idea of going out to actively purchase the best version of what you’ve been craving (i.e., not eating some random crap that is on hand), and then serving it up properly on a plate with other healthy things that make it a meal. Own it and enjoy it!

  11. 11
    Emily Butler says:

    Haha I bet Bob appreciated that 🙂 I love the plates the boys are using, I need some of those! I have a billion already but sometime you needa variety and different shapes, especially when you need to fit half a donut on a plate with a few sides of something healthy! Where did you get them?

  12. 12

    Well good for you, rock that donut! Totally nothing wrong with incorporating them into an otherwise healthy breakfast once in a while. I don’t have a sweet tooth at all and you couldn’t pay me to eat a donut, or even a real cookie. There’s nothing I really want that I don’t eat. I eat so many sweet potatoes (which I call “Nature’s candy bar”) and prunes (which I call “Nature’s gummy bears”) and I guess that pretty much does it for me. I know the boys don’t understand nutrition yet, but moderation and balance are such an important example to set when it comes to food.

  13. 13
    Lisa says:

    This is such a great post Kristin! I still struggle with the all or nothing approach to food, because I have been overweight in the past and right now am struggling with being a little underweight still. I know that there is nothing wrong with treating yourself every once in a while of course, its just hard for me to actually do it haha. Moderation is key and giving yourself some slack every now and again never hurts.

  14. 14
    Samantha says:

    Love the pajama pants. 🙂

    I am finding myself in my worst relationship ever with food, and I am 39. To be honest I am shocked because prior to about 38 I never much had a problem one way or another with food. I am sort of suspecting some major life stress + nearing 40 might have something to do with what is going on in myself.

    It is helpful for me to read other people’s stories and lessons. I seem to be coming into this later than most so it has been eye-opening. The all or nothing isn’t effective for me at all so it is better for me to learn other options.

    I would love to learn more about your experience with protein since you do add the powder to recipes. Did you notice a difference in muscle building when you added it? There is so much conflicting advice and information out there. I never even consider supplementation but am more interested in understanding how it worked for others now.

    Thanks again! This was a very sweet post.

    • 14.1
      STUFT Mama says:

      Samantha- I add protein a little more now since I cut a lot of dariy out of my diet. I worry I don’t get enough with all my exercise. I didn’t notice any different as far as muscle building ,etc., but I always had a good amount of protein anyway. I’m not much help now am I? 🙂 ha ha. Hang in there though. Life is a roller coaster and if you have a struggling relationship with food now, just think of it as a learning process. You’ll get there. And PS- getting older is for the birds isn’t it? 🙂

      • Samantha says:

        Hey! Thanks for your honest response. I will think about this. I have been vegan for at least 15 years and my protein intake has always been fine, but with the darn body aging changes it has me thinking…

        I am trying to see this as a learning process now. I like the concept of the life long process as well. I highly doubt this will be the last rough stage of my life or major body change. 🙂

        And yes, it sure is! 🙂

  15. 15
    Katie H. says:

    Love the 80/20 rule! I agree–moderation is the key. As long as you’re consistently making healthy choices, splurge on a donut. Or (my personal preference) a big bowl of ice cream 🙂

  16. 16
    kalli says:

    so very true! i used to be the all or nothing gal too. glad i do what you do now and so glad you enjoyed that donut! looks like heaven 🙂

  17. 17
    Miz says:

    finallly at the computer
    I read tweeted and loved this from afar errr aPHONE.


  18. 18
    Anna W. says:

    I love your 80/20 approach to eating and i LOVE donuts! I only have they a few times a year, so I get to enjoy every bite without any “guilt”. Happy Monday!

  19. 19
    Joy says:

    Great post! I, too, believe in everything in moderation. I have a problem with not being able to stop eating some foods when I start so I have learned not to keep those foods in the house (tortilla chips…oh how I love you!). I buy them on special occasions, but they can’t be a staple in the house.

    I have a special place in my heart for apple cider donuts because they are SO delicious. Every fall I have some even though I know they aren’t good for me. But I do try and balance that out with healthy foods so I don’t feel so bad about it.

    And you and the boys in your jammies is the cutest picture ever! You all look so cute.

  20. 20
    Katie says:

    Hi! I am realitivly new to your blog, but I love it! I especially loved this post and your ‘looking back post.’ I am going into my junior year of college and I struggle with the ‘crazy weekend of over eating and too many calories’ that makes me feel absolutely awful Monday, which leads me to restrict my calories to “make up for it” and then my workouts are awful. I have been fortunate not to have gained the freshman 15 and I am no where near being over weight but I do fluctuate the 5-7 lbs and I am not happy with where I am at with my body. I am trying to find that healthy balance but it is long hard journey especially being a college student! Your looking back post was really inspiring and helps put alot of things into perspective. Thank you for sharing your story and giving me the perspective that once I find my balance I can work toward a strong healthy body as you have done! 🙂

    • 20.1
      STUFT Mama says:

      Katie- Be patient. It took me years to get to where I am and to be honest I still struggle with the same things sometimes. It’s a life long thing. But….. if I can tell you anything, do NOT restrict calories. 🙂 It will make everything worse. I fluctuated the same 5-7 pounds for YEARS. It’s tough to get control of things, but you can get there. Email me anytime you want to chat. Welcome to the blog and our crazy life!!!! 🙂

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